Prioritize your pleasure

Culturally we have been conditioned that our lovers are a responsible for our pleasure - it is up to someone else to give us an orgasm, joy, satisfaction. This is a big responsibility to place on someone! And a huge one to take on. Waiting for someone else to satisfy our pleasure is a slippery slope...

Hospice with Grandmama

Our culture celebrates birth abundantly, whereas death is something hidden. Why it is so, I’m not entirely sure, because sitting by my grandmama’s side this last month has been the most profound experience of my life to date. So much of my work in the world is about cultivating life force energy, to live with aliveness. In these moments with mama,...

Lessons in Love with Grandmama

“Mama, I am so lucky to have you as my grandmother.” “Really?” She asks, as her eyebrows lift and eyes brighten. “Of course!” I say, “I am sooo lucky to be your granddaughter.” She pauses, and with a voice that I have heard weaken over the days and takes effort to get out, she says, “Tell me...

What happens when we die?

I thought that being here in this transition with my grandmother in her final stages of life would prompt contemplations about quintessential human questions. I thought I would be in deep reflection about life and death, hypothesize about theories I’ve read, DMT experiences that I’ve had, and my own near death experience. In actuality, I haven’t thought so much about these...

Women caring for Women’s Bodies

Women caring for women’s bodies is an incredibly healing act. There is a cultural story where women have been pitted against each other, giving rise to competition, jealousy and fear of one another. We have been conditioned to measure ourselves against each other, creating a disconnect, even a loathing, of our own body. So when we take the time to honour each...

Empath doesn’t mean taking on shit

Being an empath doesn’t mean you take on other people’s shit. I hear often about how empaths take on the feelings of others. That’s a tendency, not a requirement. To be empathic is to have the capacity to understand and feel what another person is experiencing, a beautiful quality...

I used to scoff at Beauty

b e a u t y I used to scoff at it. I used to think beauty was superficial. A waste of attention. I used to think beauty was shallow, and for people who didn’t have depth. I used to be so judgemental about beauty. I rejected it because I saw the ways people were consumed with outer appearances and neglected their inner character. I shaved my...

I Want to know Love

My greatest fear is living this life without fully exploring what love is. I want to know the depth of love. I want to know love and all its facets. Human love. Self love. Divine love. Personal love. Impersonal love. Transpersonal love. Love as a frequency. Love as the essence of who I am. Call it what you want. Love and life are two words that don’t feel separate to me in...