Welcome to the “dark” side… How to deal with intense emotions

Recently I’ve shared with you how Winter Solstice is one of most meaningful times of the year for me… possibly even my favourite.

I know that for many, winter solstice is a celebration of the return of the light.

However I feel we’re missing the point if we don’t embrace the darkest days that come right before, of which we are in right now.

This year has been an unexpected ride for me, and I’m guessing for you too.

For me, I unexpectedly moved to Switzerland, having only a single suitcase packed.

My partner and I have adjusted to being 24/7, which is both a blessing and a challenge.

We’ve discovered the incredible ways we work well together and grateful for so much quality
time…

And… we have also uncovered what drives us absolutely insane about the other.

In fact, there have been a few epic fights where I seriously thought I was going to throw a glass against the window… even with all the tools that we are well equipped with to communicate consciously :).

I had to cancel 7 events and retreats around the world.

Many of my in-person events moved online, to back in person, to online… several times over.

And well…. I won’t say the “C” word.

These challenges brought out a side of me that I don’t always like to see, or even admit I have.

There’s a “dark” side of me that can get super angry. Frustrated. Impatient. Judgemental.

When this part of me shows up, it’s super hard to not lose my cool… my fight or flight response kicks in high gear.

These intense emotions can be hard to embrace, and when I don’t deal with them, it can quickly turn into passive-aggressiveness (I am Canadian after all… and Asian)…

Which means that I start to blame others for my unhappiness. And get upset about it.

Can you relate? If yes, you are not alone. I hear this challenge from my clients all the time.

Luckily, there’s another way….

What if you could give yourself permission to actually feel… fully… all your emotions?

What if you could let them be fully expressed, in a safe and empowering way where you are not harming yourself or others?

What if you could have your “dark” or challenging emotions work for you, rather than against you?

What if you could learn how to powerfully connect to the energy behind the emotion, rather than have the emotion control you?

Why would you want to do this?

Because when you feel it, you can heal it…

And this leads to more energy in your body being freed up…

So you can actually focus on the things in life that you want to spend your energy on.

Then you can actually do what your soul came here to do on this planet…

And have deeper, more meaningful relationships with those you love…including yourself.

Sounds pretty good right? It’s been a game changer for me.

Here’s one of the Emotional Empowerment tools I love to get more of your energy back in challenging times, which is a free gift for you.

It’s a 5 minute video where I explain how to do it, and then after that you can use it anytime – no matter where you are or who you are with.

Hope this helps you in the dark moments!

Alice Hong

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